JUST A THOUGHT ON MARRIAGE

Hey, those of you who are single and looking for a partner, please choose carefully! Open your eyes wide.

Just a thought on marriage. I have seen countless unhappy women after marriage and mind you, they are educated (some more educated and smarter than their partner!) and beautiful. Somehow they seem better off single. I have a sis-in-law who married a bum. He asked her for money and even dared to throw tantrums any time he feels like it. My sis in law gave him 2 daughters. Ok ok she may not be beautiful and sexy but she is a very hardworking and easy going person to be with. I rememebered her telling me that she sometimes just wish to leave him. Anyway, she don't need him cos she is financially capable to take care of both kids and herslf. If I am in her position, I most probably would opt out.

Then there is another sis in law who is a stay at home mum. Well, their marriage is "traditional". She does everything in the house and he brings back the bread. Yes, he don't help at all, my sis in law singlehandedly took care of the kids. I don't know how she can survive. I think I will be very miserable in this type of marriage cos I will be so bored!

So what about my marriage. I wish I can tell you that it is perfect but honestly, it is a far cry from it! Ok, just in case you think my marriage is on rocks, tell you now, it is not. I must say i miss those dates we used to have, yes we looked into each other eyes and get all giddy. I liked it when DH disappeared suddenly when i go toilet and appeared again with a stalk of tulip (that time no $, so 1 stalk gd enough!). We were so loving and passionate then. Of course we have our fair share of quarrels like all couples but we never fail to make up each time.

Now after almost 7 years of marriage and with a child, the passion seems to lessen and we became ordinary. I am not complaining but just misses those times. What to do, we have a child, a big bag & a stroller to carry. How to hold hands and look into each other eyes. I guess it is our commitment and covenant to the Lord that keeps us going even thru' confilcts. I wish I can say we have mastered the art of solving conflict. Haha, no no, tho' we're still learning. As a woman I yearned for a loving gesture, something out of the ordinary, something special at times. But many times, we are just so tired and sometimes frustrated after a hard day at work and taking care of our child. I wish I can say DS brought us closer....... somehow raising a child can bring out the worst in a person and of course the best too! Sometimes I think I had changed into an awful and unloving person. I get upset easily and wants things to be done my way. Maybe the responsibility is great and I want to do it well. I hope DH can understand it is not easy to be a mum and a wife at the same time. I want our son to grow up in a loving and caring family. So I guess, I must try to be a better example to him.

Yup, that's all I want to say, single gals, go and enjoy your freedom now and of course if you want, look out for a nice guy. Remember, marriage is a lifetime commitment and a covenant. Don't eyes "ta" stamps ok!